A confused Cousin of mine

Isn't it just funny that sometimes guys get away with almost everything, especially when it comes to the issue of women, relationships, cheating and all the things associated with the female!..hmm, So Tj is my cousin o, who is almost 40, and like we all know in a place called Africa you have to be married by then with your children, good job, and whatever to become really fufilled..hmm is it?

Anyways Tj is more or less like a brother who has lived with us since i was born, like you know his parents died in a car crash and mine decided to look after him and his sisters since he was about 5,he has refused to settle down o, eventhough he has brought different women to meet us on several occassions and i mean we have really bonded with these girls only for Tj to come and say he was not interested anymore.....I mean tj played around with so many girls and am sure still does, not like he was a WOW o "pardon my english", but i dunno what they saw really, they just kept coming in and sleeping over at ours, sometimes you would hear footsteps in the early hours of the morning and then he would come and introduce them to us as his girlfriends, all these girls felt special..and then when he turned his back, we laughed at him and pushed our nose up at him..*you know the nose thing most naija peeps do"..lol...and then he would come back and say, he didn't like them anymore and that the relationship was over, tj always had a fault in them especially after they had slept over at ours...why????

....Ok so this one time, tj brought sisi home and introduced her to us , as the one 4 real, we were really pleased for him, as in this was it, tj was getting married soon, sisi seemed like a very nice lady, i mean we all loved her including ma and pa, she called me once in a while and all, and u know bonded with the family, they wore the same clothes to our family stuvs or anything sha, everyone loved sisi o...just after few months, when introduction was to be planned, sisi comes and says her mother had gone to meet some "BABA" somewhere and they said the marriage will not work.."err excuse me young lady we don't do baba here, we do the Almighty", that they are incompatible..ok the next we know it, tj too says he is not interested that sisi has a bad history and that all her escapades at uni days have been exposed..she was in a cult, she was a bad girl, bla bla bla....and then sisi starts to ring pa up saying, his son tj was owing her a lot of money she wanted back, that she had helped him in many ways..ok that one went o, pa had to pay sisi because tj refused and we didn't want any troubles!!!..that was history o

...Another Time again o, tj met omoge at his working place and apparently it was love at first sight, he again got fund of her, brought her home to the family, and every one was thinking, hmm, tj don come again o!!...but we supported still, i mean i never met omoge, but i heard so much about her, and she called me on the phone sometimes which i found weird but it was gravy, i liked her too, cos she was really sweet....it started to feel like this was the one, as in finally....he proposed to her o and then ma and pa went for the introduction, they took some stuff down to our to be inlaws and all..it was cool, wedding date was not fixed yet but it was fast approaching..and then this one time, tj was in in jand o, and introduced me to pupa, whom i thought was omoge, but unfortunately she wasn't...anyway as i opened my mouth to ask how the introduction went, tj spoke over me quickly, dragged me to the side and told me not to mention anything about the introduction, that he didn't want pupa to know about it..ahhhh...bros tj..."oga o".....tj even gave me some cheddar that day self..really don't know if it was a bribe..lol....but it was quite a lot, very unusual!!..i sha noticed tj and pupa, holding hands, giggling, doing some play play oshisco!!!...lol

b4 i knew it pupa satrted calling me too to say hello and all the inlaw runs, tj says i should find time to take pupa shopping since she didnt really know her way round..ok o, omoge too would call...it was funny mehn..i told ma about it and ma was like she wasnt even surprised cos when he was coming to jd, she had seen him off to the airport and that it was a different girl that was with him then..we laughed about it, and just felt he was messing around cos he knew he would walk down the aisle soon. The next call i got from my mum, was to hear that tj had called off the engagement, ma was furious, what an embarrassment, i mean pa had to cancel his trip for this introduction and now tj says he is not doing again..ok o tj why???

tj says ehn that a married friend of omoge told him that she had flings with the executives in the office, that she had a bad reputation, bla bla bla, and that in fact he was furious because omoge started telling the whole world that they had done introduction, he only wanted a small thing and not a big thing out of the wedding issue...ma was like tj would you shut up, what do u mean by all your rantings?...and then he is like ma if you people should force me to marry this girl "he said all this in omoge's prescence o" i would marry o, but i would just be leaving the house at every given opportunity, and she would suffer..at this point no one said a word anymore, we just left tj, and had to support innocent omoge who had been humiliated..i mean how would she go and start facing her friends telling them that her engagement had been called off...infact ma wanted to go and see the so called married friend that tj had claimed gave him these stories "that's if it was even true in the first place"....pa was so upset and embarrassed..i mean who wouldn't be?,,ma had to plead with these people o, more so we heard they were ijebu's hmmmm, lol.....it dragged but i think every one has come to terms with the fact that..it aint happening!!!!

Ma feels tj has offended some girls in the past and just maybe they have cast a spell on him, or is this normal?..lol...i mean only God knows the amount of girls he has toiled with and all....i personally think tj is confused or he really doesn't want to settle down..he still galivants with orisirisi females...lol....just thought about it recently because omoge still calls me up till now and accuses me of not even calling her...aww poor lady...i know she still likes tj for her to still pick up her fone and call me, but i can hardly do anything..
....you can force a horse to the river but you can't force it to drink water shebi!!!!

We are praying for tj sha...hopefully he would finally settle down!!!!